My name is Elnara, and I'm from Azerbaijan. I was an exchange student in South Dakota (United States) during 2024-2025, and here is my story!

How I Learned About FLEX

The first time I ever heard about the FLEX program, I didn’t fully realize how much it would change my life. It all started when an alumna came to our school to give a presentation about her experience. I remember sitting there, absolutely amazed, feeling something spark inside me. As soon as the session ended, I quickly wrote down “FLEX” in my notebook. 

Since childhood, I’ve always dreamed about studying abroad, especially in the United States. I wanted to explore a new culture, build meaningful connections, grow as an individual, and most importantly, step out of my comfort zone. I had watched all the high school movies and imagined myself walking down those long school hallways, going to football games, joining clubs… It all seemed like a dream. So, when I learned about FLEX, I knew I had to try. Yes, I had my doubts (after all, it’s an incredibly competitive program), but every time I closed my eyes, I pictured myself as a finalist. That image pushed me forward and kept me motivated.

The Application Process

The application process was just as intense as I expected, but also exciting. It had three stages: the first involved basic information and a few essays. I was nervous but determined to showcase my potential. Then came the English test, which I found manageable thanks to my years of grammar and vocabulary practice. And then (the most thrilling part) the third round! Becoming a semi-finalist was already a huge deal. We had interviews, wrote more essays, and even wrote a letter to our potential host family. I loved that detail — it felt so real!

I didn’t do anything overly special to prepare. Honestly, I think the main skills you need are decent English (it doesn’t have to be perfect!) and a willingness to express yourself through writing. Passion and authenticity go a long way.

When I got the call saying I was an alternative, my feelings were mixed. I was proud of myself, but unsure what the future held. A few weeks later, I got another call… I was officially a finalist! I cried happy tears. It was one of the most unforgettable moments of my life.

Goodbyes and New Beginnings

The days leading up to my departure were filled with emotion. Packing my suitcase, hugging my sibling while they told me they’d miss me, looking back at my parents one last time before going through security… all of it was bittersweet. But it was also beautiful. I was about to start a life-changing journey.

When I found out I’d be placed in South Dakota, I’ll be honest: I didn’t know much about it. But I Googled it, and the first thing I saw was Mount Rushmore. I gasped. “I’ve seen this in my textbook!” I couldn’t believe I’d be seeing it in real life. The more I researched Sioux Falls, my host city, the more excited I became.

My host family had experience with exchange students and welcomed me with open arms. From the very beginning, they made sure I felt like part of the family. They were warm, kind, and eager to learn about my culture too. Bonding with them was natural, and I’ll forever appreciate the memories we’ve shared.

One of the cultural differences that stood out to me was how friendly strangers were. People I didn’t know would say hello, start casual conversations at the store, and genuinely try to help. Another surprise? The food portions! Everything was so much bigger than what I was used to! Also, the school spirit here is real. Volunteering, sports teams, clubs…there was a real sense of pride and involvement that I had never seen before.

A New Kind of School Life

Back in Azerbaijan, school was more focused on academics. We didn’t have as many extracurricular options. But here in the US, there were so many classes and clubs! I chose my classes right after arriving (yes, while still jet lagged!). My counselor helped me pick from a long list of electives: ceramics, photography, yearbook… I couldn’t believe these were real subjects! My favorites from the first semester were ceramics and drama; later, I absolutely loved sociology and choir. I had never taken classes like these before, but my teachers were really supportive.

The grading system was different, too. In Azerbaijan, we use a 1–5 scale. Here, it’s letters (A to F), but both are ultimately based on percentages. It took some adjusting, but I managed just fine.

I also got involved in school clubs and volunteering. I joined FBLA, HOSA, and participated in the theater department’s one-act play. We even won a superior award at the Annual One Act Festival at SDSU! Over the course of the year, I volunteered for a total of 76 hours, which made me feel strongly connected to my community.

Friendships That Last Forever

Making friends in a totally new environment was both exciting and a bit intimidating. At first, it felt like everyone already had their own friend groups, and I had to work hard to find common ground. Language barriers and cultural differences occasionally made things tricky, but I kept putting myself out there. Joining clubs, saying yes to new experiences, and reaching out helped me slowly build real, lasting connections.

Some of my favorite memories with my American friends include playing in the Powderpuff game, baking chocolate chip cookies together, introducing each other to different foods, laughing uncontrollably, and sharing those small, unforgettable moments. I know we’ll keep in touch, and hopefully meet again in the future.

How FLEX Changed Me

The FLEX program changed me in more ways than I can count. It gave me a second family on the other side of the world. It helped me become more adaptable, independent, and open-minded. It taught me to take initiative, to push through discomfort, and to embrace new environments.

I learned practical life skills like managing money, using school tech tools, and communicating across language barriers. I also realized that meaningful friendships can form anywhere, even in just one year. Don’t let the idea of “it’s temporary” stop you from opening your heart.

FLEX helped me see myself as a global citizen. It shaped how I think, how I interact with people, and what I want for my future. It gave me confidence and helped me realize that no dream is too big if you're willing to work for it.

To Future Applicants:

If you're thinking of applying to FLEX, here's my advice:

• Be honest.

• Be proactive.

• Be YOU.

Don’t be afraid. Take the leap. This might be your chance to make your American teenage dream come true: just like I did!